Alexandra Suarez
“ The self is a process, constantly constructed in moments of connection and disconnection with others. ”
About My Work
​My work is dedicated to exploring the intersection of love and sexuality — from the relationship we have with our bodies, to the way we experience intimacy and connect with others. To understand how relationships evolve, why passion dies, and what ultimately drives us apart. To delve into desire, heartbreak, pain, and the emotions that shape our deepest connections.
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To talk about sex is never merely to discuss physicality—it’s to explore family, culture, gender, power, consent, religion, pleasure, and belonging; to explore who we are and who we aspire to be. By fostering open conversations on topics such as desire, trauma, parenthood, and sexual wellbeing, I hope to dismantle shame and help others navigate the evolving landscapes of intimacy, connection, and identity with honesty and compassion.​ ​​
Services
Individual Counselling
Individual counselling provides a dedicated space to explore the intricacies of sex and relationships from a personal perspective. In our work together, you will be able to explore your beliefs, desires, and behaviours and gain insight into what shapes your sexual expression and relational dynamics. Through increased self-awareness and self-compassion, you are empowered to redefine your approach to intimacy, fostering more authentic and fulfilling connections with yourself and others.
Sex Counselling
Despite being constantly exposed to sexual messages, open and honest conversations about sex remain clouded by misinformation, secrecy, and shame. Sex counselling offers a supportive, judgment-free space to break these barriers —helping individuals and couples navigate not just sex, but also the deeper emotional aspects of intimacy. By exploring desires, concerns, and challenges openly, clients can better understand their sexual identity and cultivate a deeper connection to their bodies and partners.
Couples Counselling
Couples counseling is not only a resource to turn to during times of conflict or challenges, but also a proactive investment in one of the most important aspects of our lives—our relationship. By exploring counselling, couples can strengthen their connection, improve communication, and deepen their emotional intimacy before issues arise. It’s an opportunity to nurture the bond you share, enhance mutual understanding, and build a solid foundation for growth, ensuring that your relationship thrives over time, regardless of the obstacles you may face.
My Approach
Self-expression is an integral part of counselling and personal growth. It is through sharing our stories that we begin to understand how they have shaped us and how we may be re-enacting patterns and scripts from our childhood or past experiences as a coping or protection mechanism. In this way, self-expression becomes a bridge between our present reality and the underlying forces that influence us—an unfolding process where we uncover hidden parts of ourselves, and give voice to the emotions beneath the surface. Relationship and sex counselling is an invitation to explore your most authentic self in relation to others and to reconnect with your body.
Sexuality Counselling
We will explore your sexuality through an integrative approach, considering the biological, psychological, and social factors that shape it. Together, we will review medical factors that may be contributing to sexual difficulties, uncover how your autonomic nervous system responds to pressure and anxiety, and openly explore how sexual scripts, personal experiences, and cultural influences have shaped your desires and fantasies.
Whether you want to free yourself from feelings of shame, explore your sexual identity or deepen the connection with your partner, I am here to support you on your journey.
Common Challenges Explored in Sex Counselling:
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Addressing differences in sexual desires, frequency, and other intimacy-related challenges.
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Reclaiming your sexuality and healing from past sexual trauma.​
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Understanding and healing the shame that influences your sexual identity and experiences.
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Working through compulsive sexual behaviour (formerly referred to as sex addiction).
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Understanding your sexual orientation – who you love, who you fall in love with, and what turns you on.
Exploring erotic possibilities as a transitioning or transgender person.
Overcoming sexual difficulties around arousal, vaginal pain and erectile dysfunction.
Navigating the challenges of ethical non-monogamy and exploring open relationship dynamics.
Relationship Counselling
As romantic relationships evolve and become more defined, the individual self often merges with the couple identity. This lack of differentiation, or the loss of self, often leads to challenges as individuals seek to recalibrate and struggle to find a balance between autonomy and togetherness, freedom and commitment. Often, we feel frustrated and may view our partner as the source of the issue. However, what’s truly at play is a deep need for personal and psychological growth—both individually and as a couple.
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By using the Developmental Model of Couple’s Counselling as our guiding framework, our sessions will support you and your partner to differentiate while transforming conflicts into meaningful opportunities for growth and a more intimate connection.​
Common Challenges Explored in Relationship Counselling:
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Communication Issues – Difficulty expressing feelings, active listening, or misunderstanding each other.
Conflict Resolution – Struggling to resolve disagreements without escalating tension.
Trust and Betrayal – Healing from infidelity, dishonesty, or breaches of trust.
Emotional Distance – Feeling disconnected, unloved, or unsupported by a partner.
Life Transitions – Adjusting to major changes like marriage, having children or moving to a new country.
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Parenting Differences – Disagreements about parenting styles, responsibilities, or co-parenting dynamics.